I think it goes without saying a paralipsis is passive aggressive
Where you say something is not so but say it really is, is dismissive
Of the reasoning power of people that hear your particular diatribe
Using backhanded compliments that belie your comments rude and snide.

I’m not saying she’s fat but that dress sure seems to be shrinking
I don’t mean to imply he’s rude but he says the crudest things without thinking
I’m not saying her kid is dumb but her little Bobby is shaving in second grade
It’s not that he has a bad attitude but he seems to make lemons when given lemonade.

the device of giving emphasis by professing to say little or nothing about a subject, as in not to mention their unpaid debts of several million.